I used to love the idea of journaling.
A soft notebook. A cozy corner. A fresh pen.
It felt like something I should do—something healing, romantic, maybe even life-changing.

But every time I sat down to actually write, my brain went blank.
Or worse… it went performative.
I’d write something like

Today I felt off. Maybe I should drink more water.
And then I’d close the journal and never look at it again.

It didn’t feel real. It didn’t feel helpful. And if I’m honest, it didn’t feel like me.

Until my therapist said something that changed everything.

1. Think of your journal like a friend

Not a task. Not a performance. Not a self-improvement checklist.

Just a friend.
The kind you can be brutally honest with.
The kind who won’t interrupt or fix or judge.
The kind who just listens.

When I stopped treating my journal like a place to "get it right" and started treating it like a place to be seen, everything shifted.
It became a conversation instead of a chore.

2. Write like no one’s going to read it

Because no one is.

You don’t need structure. You don’t need perfect spelling. You don’t even need to make sense.

Journaling works best when you let go of the pressure to write something useful or insightful or beautiful.
Just be honest. Be messy. Be unfinished.

You’re not writing a memoir.
You’re just trying to feel something.

3. Write your stream of thoughts exactly as they come

Even if it looks like this:

“I don’t know what to write. I saw a TikTok and now I’m spiraling. Why am I like this. Should I text him back. Probably not. Ugh. Okay. This feels dumb. I want chips.”

That’s the good stuff.
That’s where the truth lives—under the noise, in the middle of the spiral, tangled between the craving and the question you’re afraid to ask.

You don’t have to untangle it all. You just have to write it down.

It started working the moment I stopped trying to make it work

Journaling didn’t "fix me."
But it did make me feel less like a mystery to myself.
It helped me name the things I couldn’t say out loud.
And it gave me a place to go when I didn’t want advice—just space.

If you’ve tried journaling and it didn’t stick, maybe it’s not that you failed.
Maybe you just needed someone to remind you—it doesn’t have to be perfect.
It just has to be real.

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