“Did I really just say that out loud?”
You’ve probably had one of those moments — muttering something under your breath while cooking, talking yourself through a decision at the store, or blurting out a pep talk before something scary.
So, is talking to yourself a little weird… or completely normal?
Turns out, it’s not only normal — it can be surprisingly good for your brain and your emotional well-being.
Let’s unpack why.
🧠 1. Talking to Yourself Helps You Process Information
When you say things out loud, you’re engaging different parts of your brain than when you think silently.
Studies have shown that verbal processing helps with memory, decision-making, and even emotional regulation. It’s like giving your thoughts structure — similar to journaling, but with your voice.
That’s why talking yourself through a to-do list or naming what you’re feeling (“I’m overwhelmed right now”) can actually help you regain control.
Want a more structured outlet? Write it down in The Safe Journal — it’s your quiet place to organize the chaos.
😰 2. It Can Soothe Anxiety and Reduce Mental Clutter
People with anxious thoughts often ruminate — meaning their thoughts loop and spiral.
Talking aloud (especially in a calm, measured tone) helps break the loop.
It’s the same principle therapists use in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT):
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Challenge the thought
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Reframe it
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Speak it differently
For example:
“I always mess things up” → “Actually, I’ve handled difficult things before. This is just hard right now.”
You don’t have to believe it 100% yet. Just saying it starts the shift.
👥 3. There Are Two Kinds of Self-Talk — and One Is Better for You
Not all self-talk is created equal.
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Harsh self-talk is rooted in your inner critic.
It says: “What’s wrong with you? You’re so stupid.” -
Supportive self-talk is what a kind friend would say.
It says: “This is hard, but you’re doing your best. One step at a time.”
The good news? You can train your brain to default to the second one.
But first, you need to notice the voice. That’s where journaling comes in — it helps you catch patterns.
The Safe Journal includes prompts like “What did my inner critic say today?” and “What would I tell a friend in this situation?”
👉 Explore the journal
🪞 4. It’s Not “Crazy.” It’s Connection.
Many people talk to themselves because they’re lonely, overstimulated, or emotionally stuck — and don’t feel like they have someone to talk to.
And sometimes, you’re the only one who really gets what’s going on in your own head.
That’s not weird. That’s human.
In fact, kids do this all the time. (Ever watched a toddler narrate their every move?)
Adults just got shamed out of it.
But here’s your permission slip:
You’re allowed to be your own comfort. Your own coach. Your own sounding board.
Even if it’s out loud.
📝 If You Want to Take It Deeper… Try Writing It Down
Verbal processing is powerful — but writing gives it permanence.
If you find yourself spiraling, overexplaining, or overthinking out loud, pause and write instead. Your brain slows down. The feelings get room to stretch.
The Safe Journal was designed for that exact purpose.
It helps you:
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Make sense of spiraling thoughts
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Catch your self-talk patterns
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Process what’s underneath the noise
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Feel heard — even when you’re alone